The Soul Body Union: What Are We? - A Personal Reflection

I love practicing energy medicine, especially when I’m learning new techniques and protocols. I often ask my relatives if I can practice on them. One time, after learning something new, I asked my cousin—who was pregnant at the time—if I could practice on her, and she agreed.

As I began clearing her energy structure, I became very aware of the presence of her baby. I took the hint and shifted my attention to the baby with greater intention. That’s when I became aware of a grand, majestic being floating around her. I intuitively knew it was the soul of the baby. I also knew it was a girl. She wasn’t fully embodied in the baby yet, but she was clearly connected.

There are truly no words to describe the majesty of this soul. She felt vast, powerful, and wise—unlike anything I’ve ever experienced on this planet. I felt incredibly privileged to witness her in that form. It made me wonder: Are all souls like this before they incarnate? I believe they are. I think we all come from that same place of brilliance and grace.

Nearly a year later, I met the baby girl in human form. I was struck by the contrast: this incredibly majestic soul now embodied in a tiny human, wiggling around, trying to figure out how to control her body, still forming neural connections, and entirely dependent on others for survival.

It’s mind-blowing that souls choose to make this journey—from being all-powerful to inhabiting a body so vulnerable and dependent.

So what exactly is happening here? What is this life? Who are we, really?

You've probably heard it said in Buddhism, Christianity, and modern spirituality that “you are not your body.” But what does that even mean? And why have some religious institutions gone so far as to label the body as sinful? That belief has led to harmful thoughts and contradictions, leaving many people feeling ashamed or broken.

I want to break this down—what are your soul, the ego, and body—from my perspective, informed by years of reading religious texts, past life regression literature, new age teachings, and my own personal experiences.

The Soul & Body Union

For years, I didn’t understand the difference between “Soul” and “Spirit.” I could never get a clear answer. And to be honest, I think they are pretty much the same thing. However, for the sake of this article, I have broken them into two different parts.

In the higher, non-physical realms, your Spirit exists. It’s the eternal, formless aspect of you—your “higher self.” Its ultimate goal is soul evolution, growing towards unity with the Divine, the One, Source, God—whatever term you resonate with.

One way spirit evolves is by incarnating into physical form. Why? Because conceptualization is one thing, but embodiment is another. You have to fully embody knowledge to earn the wisdom that takes us further. It’s like studying cooking—you can become an expert in studying flavor profiles and techniques, but until you cook and taste the food, you don’t really know it.

Incarnation is about embodying wisdom. It allows us to learn through experience, gain perspective, and to grow.

Using the cooking example: Let’s say your Spirit wants to master pizza-making. It has studied it deeply in the nonphysical realms. Now it wants to experience it. So, it sends a portion of itself on the journey to Earth. That portion is the Soul.

The spirit chooses the host for the Soul—its future body—and then the Soul travels to the physical realm to begin the process of merging. This can begin around two months into pregnancy and might continue until the child is five or six years old. It’s not a one-time event but a gradual integration.

So your Spirit has sent the soul on a mission: become a master pizza chef. Now the Soul must work with the body and its survival-focused ego to make that dream a reality.

And that’s where it gets complicated.

The human body is full of gifts and challenges. It carries ancestral DNA, physical limitations, and sensory capacities. Maybe you’re blessed with an amazing palate—perfect for a chef—but you also inherit arthritis, which makes throwing pizza dough painful.

And then there’s the Ego.

What is the Ego?

The ego is the part of you that processes all the sensory input of the world and creates a manageable perspective of reality, with the goal of survival. Think of it like living in a cabin in the middle of a vast forest—you can’t see the whole forest and all its diversity at once without being overwhelmed, so you look out a window. The window frames just a small manageable view.

That’s what the ego does—it gives you a limited lens to experience and manage reality. Over time, society, family, and culture train us to look out particular “windows” and ignore others. This shapes our beliefs and behaviors.

A Soul’s Mission vs. Reality

Let’s go back to the soul’s mission of becoming a pizza chef as an example.

You’re born into a family of lawyers. They want you to follow in their footsteps. They won’t pay for culinary school. So now you need a job to support yourself, pay rent, car insurance, etc. Meanwhile, your body starts sending biological signals that make you want a family. Life feels overwhelming.

Your soul continues to nudge you toward your mission, while your body and ego are responding to the pressures of the physical world.

I think one of the hardest things in life is to contend with the ego. It often feels like it dominates, while the soul waits patiently. But the goal, I believe, is to let the soul take the driver’s seat, while the ego becomes a supportive co-pilot.

For example, I feel deeply called to support people’s spiritual evolution. But my ego says, “You won’t make enough money doing that. People will judge you. Your friends are going to stop reading your posts because they think you're too Woo-Woo and have lost your mind. You’ll be rejected.”

It’s a constant negotiation between fear and purpose.

But over time, the ego can be retrained. It can learn to “widen” the window to gain new perspectives and support a more soul-aligned path.

That’s the journey we’re all on.

So what are we exactly?

We are each profoundly unique—there has never been, and never will be, another you in the entire history of the universe. That fact alone is breathtaking. When I truly sit with the magnitude of that truth, my heart swells with ecstasy and gratitude simply for the gift of being Kristina.

Do I always like my life? No. Do I enjoy the strange, often mindless thoughts my ego throws at me? Definitely not. Am I always happy? Not even close. In fact, there are moments when holding the contrast between divine ecstasy and the grind of everyday human life feels harder than if I had never known magic at all.

And yet, despite everything, I feel a deep and growing tenderness toward myself. I am the merging of a vast, ancient soul—millions of years old—and a human body that is a living treasure of inherited magic. My DNA carries the legacy of countless ancestors. I was born under a unique astrological alignment that will never occur again, and I draw strength from the energetic bodies of those celestial forces. Honestly, I could go on and on. But the thing is, I see everyone this way. Each person I meet, whether I like them or not, is a miraculous merging of universal forces. I honor that.

It’s heartbreaking that we live in a society shaped by shame, guilt, and unworthiness. A world that prefers control and smallness over celebrating the inherent brilliance in each of us. We are far from a soulful way of living—trapped instead in a reality ruled by the lesser aspects of ego.

I hope that everyone who reads this article catches a glimpse of the magic within themselves—and finds the courage to live a more soulful life.