Why I am not the Healer - You Are

Being called a healer has never quite sat right with me. Yes, I practice energy work, and yes, that work can support deep healing in people. But I don’t see myself as the healer. In truth, it’s the person who comes to a session who is doing the real healing—the inner transformation. I’m simply holding space, offering a framework, and supporting their process. I am creating a catalyst, but the client has to choose whether or not to step into that transformation.

What's actually going on in an energy healing session?

You might wonder why I’ve spent thousands of dollars learning what many would consider “healing arts,” and yet I resist calling myself a healer. It’s not because I doubt the work—I’ve witnessed profound, even miraculous shifts in my sessions. But again, I’m not doing the healing. I’m setting the conditions for change, holding space for energy, sound, and intention to offer a catalyst for something new. At the end of the day, it’s always the client’s choice. Our belief, our choice, our ability to surrender—that’s the key. The person receiving the session must meet the moment with openness and a willingness to shift.

And that part isn’t always obvious. Many people, often unconsciously, outsource their healing. They hope someone else can come in and fix it. I see this for a few reasons:

• They truly don’t know how to heal themselves and are searching for guidance. I deeply relate to this—I think most of us have been stuck in loops of repeating thoughts, emotions, and patterns that we just don’t know how to get out of.

• They’ve been conditioned by Western medicine to seek an expert when something’s wrong. And while I fully support Western medicine, I also believe in people reclaiming agency over their bodies, minds, and lives.

• They avoid confronting what hurts. Consciously or not, many people don’t want to revisit painful experiences. They sense the wound, but can’t face it just yet. They find themselves at a session without a clear and true intention.

The truth is that many of us feel like victims of our circumstances. We wait for something external to come in and fix or relieve the burden. Then there comes a point where one simply submits and realizes we have the power to do something about what is troubling us.

Healing is a choice

The responsibility still rests with us. Healing—real healing—comes when we’re willing to show up for ourselves. When clients begin to see lasting change after sessions, it’s because they are doing the work.

Some modalities and practitioners may promise to clear trauma or pain without any effort on your part. You just lie there on the table, and they wipe you of all your problems without you putting in any effort on your part. This simply isn't true. Your soul didn't come to this planet to learn and grow in the human experience by avoiding crucial learning lessons it came here to work through. This doesn't mean you need to re-traumatize yourself or spend endless hours in therapy, but rather come to terms with the impact of your life experiences.

What My Role Actually Is:

1. Providing a catalyst for shift: This is where all our training comes into play. We set conditions, bring in vibrational medicines, and create space for transformation.

2. Witnessing the shift: Witnessing transformation is profoundly important. Often, I feel the person's energy structure changing, which validates for both the client and myself that change has occurred. There's something intimate and beautiful about holding space and witnessing the client in an energy healing session—it's truly an honor and privilege.

3. Reflecting: Beyond holding the intention for the session that a client usually arrives with, I reflect back that my client is truly perfect, clear, spacious, and powerful. By holding this intention, the hope is that the client's structure will expand into its truest nature—a perfect being—leaving behind ideas and contractions that keep them in stagnation.

The Role of the Client:

1. Believe in your healing capacity: Trust that you can heal, that you can change, that you are worthy of it. Believe that miracles are possible and that you are a beautiful, powerful, expansive soul.

2. Commit to the lifelong process: Healing isn’t a one-time event—it’s a lifelong path. It involves sessions, reflection, stillness, breakthroughs, journaling, falling back, and moving forward again. Every step matters.

3. Inhabit your expansion: After a significant healing, spend time in the reveal. Expand into this new version of yourself. Sometimes great expansions can become addictive, and we feel something is wrong if we're not experiencing them frequently. Remember that life is about abundance, not lack. The more you heal and expand, the more abundant you are to yourself.

4. Practice patience: Sometimes your conscious mind brings you to a session, but your subconscious isn’t ready to let go yet. That’s okay. And sometimes, the reverse is true: your soul is ready before your mind knows it. Be patient with yourself. Healing unfolds in its due time.

In Conclusion

Energy work is an opportunity. Neither I nor the client can know exactly what will happen in a session, but the possibility of expansion is always present. If you’re willing to show up for yourself, healing becomes not only possible but inevitable.

Not because I did something to you, but because you allowed something within you to awaken.